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Becoming Swingers, Is The SwingerSocial Site The Place To Start?

Becoming Swingers, Is The SwingerSocial Site The Place To Start?Well, a few things to make sure of before you move forward in your relationship and decide to engage in swinging. You need to make sure you’re in a non- monogamous relationship. Which I’m sure you have already decided that if you are looking at this article. Also, I’m guessing to arouse your curiosity you have come across comments made by other swingers who have mentioned the benefits they have experienced in this lifestyle.

The Facts

  • Swinging can make you feel younger
  • This alternative lifestyle will improve your sex life
  • This lifestyle can strengthen your relationship

However, the question remains, “how do we join this lifestyle?”

Well, we asked ourselves that question for what seemed to be eons, only to realize there’s no secret to it. As our friends said, “it’s the exact same as joining” a dating site. Except the people you will contact on a swingers site, participate in what we call, “recreational sex” or in an alternative lifestyle.

When you are possibly looking for sex and you are meeting a person from a dating site, ideally the dreaded “3+ date rule” is in place. That means you are not going to have sex until the third date, if you’re lucky!

On these sites, you can toss that rule aside. In the alternative lifestyle, we have replaced that rule with the 3 hour rule, if fondling hasn’t started in at least 3 hours, something is wrong. Actually in our experiences, the longest it’s taken has been 2 ½ hours before the sex started. That was due to leaving an iPhone at the restaurant where we met our new friends.Becoming Swingers, Is The SwingerSocial Site The Place To Start?

SwingerSocial Can Help Facilitate the Process

The cool thing about swinger sites is that the people you chat with are so open when it comes to sexual chatting; it’s fun, arousing and you don’t have to be cautious about “slipping up” on what you say. There are so many sites about swinging but only one is right for you – SwingerSocial. It’s modern and has some cool features you’ll really enjoy.

The modern chat program, designed by Comet Chat allows you to chat to friend(s) or hang out in the chat room on your mobile device. The gallery has a place where just about everyone puts up nude images of themselves and the social media wall is very similar to Facebook. Postings range from, “My wife and I are going to the beach, any other couples looking to meet?” to “We had a great sexual experience last weekend and I got the best blow job ever!”

Check out our pictures. I hope that answered a few questions on “How to join the Swinging lifestyle.

All comments welcome. Questions by those experienced in the lifestyles will answer. For more information, contact us or start by registering for free today!

Why I Became a Swinger

Not that there was anything wrong with my monogamous relationship with my wife. Not because the sex was infrequent. It didn’t have to do with boredom. It was all about new experiences. My wife and I would talk at night about our fantasies, and different things we’d like to try in the bedroom—sometimes with other people. It seemed every night, our fantasies altered slightly, and the kinky nature of my wife left one conclusion: try swinging.

Group Sex

We’ve been in the lifestyle a little over 3 years now, and are meeting more and more swingers in California. We’ve been with couples and singles our age, younger, and older. We quickly found to be comfortable in our bodies around others in the lifestyle, and made the transition to local swing clubs in order to expand our reach and further satisfy our ever increasing sexual cravings.

There was always excitement and a new experience with some sexy people waiting around the corner. We found local clubs near our home, and went into each trip with a sense of confidence. It was arousing, and from the get-go we made contacts—who eventually would become friends. The clubs were accommodating, and there were more people dressed in sexy little outfits than we thought. It’s a comfort area; we want to have sex without feeling uncomfortable.

As the first night proceeded, we found ourselves in an open room with three other couples. Let the action begin! The props were there (handcuffs, restraints) and the mood was right. We swapped partners, giving a glance at each other as the sex turned hot and steamy. That first night, we were able to live out some of our most erotic fantasies, and without commitment. Since that time, we’ve been on swinging retreats, vacations, and have traveled the country visiting other swingers clubs. The experience is always different, and it’s a breath of fresh air each time another woman satisfies me in ways I never thought imaginable.

Here are some lessons if you’re joining a free swingers website for the first time. In our lifestyle, the women are in charge. They’re the dominant figures in the bedroom—or the couch, or the floor, or the furniture. They have the final say. If they say no, that’s what it means.

Don’t look at swinging as a surefire fix to your relationship. As a couple, you want to enjoy the honesty and freedom that is offered by the lifestyle. You want to have fun! Still, you want to spend the night in your partner’s arms. If the relationship is going sideways, swinging won’t fix what’s broken. We turned to swinging to remain in a healthy relationship while fulfilling our fantasies. How long will the phase last? You never know, but we’re living in the now. And god damn it, does it make me feel alive.

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