If you haven’t already heard, swinging is the new and exciting sexual activity,
alternative sexual lifestyle that consenting adults engage in. That’s right, swingers (usually couples) hook up with other couples and swap partners at private parties and in their homes. While single women are always welcome to these parties with open arms, single guys do have a more difficult time finding a swingers party in which he can get into without a partner.
The number of swingers clubs is growing rapidly, and in addition to swingers clubs there are resorts for swingers and cruises for swingers where couples can attend and interact with other swingers, and of course, couples can also hook up at these parties and then go back to a more private environment to engage in sexual play.
I’m sure this sounds very intriguing to many singles and couples. Swinging can be used as a way to enhance a sexual relationship and/or replacing a failing sexual relationship. The partner you decide to swing with should play a role in your life. If you want to enjoy the swinger’s life, you have to have excellent communication with your partner. You must be comfortable with each other and be able to discuss any and everything. If you are sensitive to each other’s needs and put each other’s needs before your own, then this can be a wonderful experience for both of you. As you become more intimate with the environment, you will start understanding more of the lingo commonly used among swingers. On Swingersocial site there’s a “Lifestyle Definitions” section that goes over all of this.
When you first walk into a swinging environment keep in mind that you shouldn’t behave in a very eager mode, other swingers will become intimated. It’s a social practice, engage in conversations and do some light flirting instead of humping the first couple you encounter.
Just like in any environment, being responsible, friendly and open-minded are very important if you want this experience to be a positive one. As many say as going to a cocktail party, however as the evening moves on, people become intimated. And in case you’re wondering, you don’t necessarily have to have sex with other people in order to have a good time. The great thing is that hearing and seeing other people engage in sex can provide quite the enhancement for you and your partner if and when you have sex with each other.
If your relationship is not steady and the both of you are constantly arguing, swinging is not the answer. As well, if either of you has a goal to permanently “replace” your partner, you’re going to be in for a nasty surprise. That’s not the way things work at swinging events. Always keep in mind that it’s okay to say no; you’re not obligated to have sex with anyone. A common thought is that swinging is for beautiful people and women who are a size 2 or 4. However, this is totally not the case! Swingers are you “everyday” person you’d see at work, at the supermarket, at a PTA meeting and other common public settings. Swingersocial and swinging clubs don’t discriminate against age, sex, race, or body shape.
Oh yeah, when you approach a woman and she says, “No, thank you,” accept it with a smile and move on. Don’t start asking questions like, “Why, what’s wrong with me?” The most used phrase you will here when attending a swingers event, “No means No”!
It is quite common for jealousy to arise due to insecurity. Although this is normal as one partner may be watching the other make love to someone else, constant squabbling and fighting over the experience might demonstrate that perhaps the two of you are not ready for such an environment.
If you fear that your woman will end up getting more attention than you, that if you touch another woman your own lady will trip out on you, or that she might fall in love with another man, then perhaps you shouldn’t delve into such a scenario just yet.
The initial stage of jealousy can be thwarted simply through agreements made beforehand, adequate communication, and constant reassurance of your love for each other. Deal with any and all feelings you may have regarding any situation right away. That’s the only way to ensure that there won’t be any misunderstandings.
Remember that swinging is there to enhance your relationship, not replace or do away with it. And Swingersocial has made as site where it’s easy to meet local swingers with similar goals.