Swingers, and potential swinger women…read this…I’ve receive a lot of emails from other plus sized women who have appreciated my posts about transforming from an ugly chick who know one would want to a desirable swinger woman men actively pursue. Now mind you I am not a model, I cannot bend in some unique way, not really even able to deep throat although I hear I make up for that in other ways. 🙂 I am not gods gift to swinger men.
But the overwhelming theme I hear is “My wife wants to be a swinger, but she thinks she is too fat” or I hear from the woman herself that how could she swing and show her body. When you look at the PG rated Swinger Social Galleries you will quickly notice many women are not thin and are happy to show off their curvy figures. Also you will see on our twitter site, many of our members are happy to show theircurvy bodies to thousands of people.
We all have preferences. I prefer swinger that are clean-cut men that my Mom would approve of. Others like thin, tall, tattoos etc. There are all types and sizes and shapes in the lifestyle and the successful ones are the swinger girls who have confidence in themselves no matter what.
I’ve lost a lot of weight and my body shows the after effects. Only plastic surgery could fix what main stream society consider body flaws and I still consider going through with it. I still struggle with my lumps, bumps and folds every so often. I am human, but I am here to tell you that you are desirable if you CHOOSE to be so! Swingers are generally 40+ and we all have 40+ bodies. Some are cut and perfect by societies standards but they seem to be the ones that are avoided. I recently had a man with a traditionally perfect body want to be with me and I debated with
him for hours about why? Silly me, he liked my personality AND my curves and as a swinger man he loves women for who they are. Damn could he SWING! I would have missed out on a lot.
Men tend to look at the parts they like. They are not judging your baby tummy, or your breasts you loving gave to your children to feed. They want to please you if they are worthy of you. Stop judging yourself and when you do stop and think.
Mr Mars (an author here and great play partner) was talking to me the other day and I was saying how was I getting so lucky with men that were so pretty and hot? He reminded me I was the common denominator. Others look better in a bikini but I certainly look better in bed with my wonderful swing friends and with my wonderful swing partner.
Want to be a swinger and think you can’t because you are not “perfect?” BULLSHIT! If you want it go for it. Some will say no, most will say yes. Also guys you don’t have to be perfect either. I don’t care if you have your hair, put on those 20 lbs you can’t get rid of. I do care that you are clean, healthy and like women. A sense of humor is also fun. That’s it. That’s all you need to be with me and be successful in the swinger world.
My boyfriend loves to be with a woman who has lost her sex mojo and show her she is beautiful and maybe show her how to swing. I am always proud (and terribly turned on) by these wonderful gifts he gives to women that have lost their confidence. He did it for me and showed me how swinging and being in an open relationship is so much fun and that I was desirable even though I am not a model. We all end up looking the same in the end. What a shame if we choose to closet ourselves away because we don’t look like Madison Avenue wants us to. Thanks Swinger Social, I’m getting attention 24/7
Love to hear your comments and experiences!