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Threesomes are not like regular sex

Threesomes are not like regular sex — they require both imagination and sensitivity. If you plan on having a threesome, you need to go into the situation with some idea of what you’re going to be doing, you need some threesome rules.

Understanding these basic threesome rules will help you avoid some common mistakes that typically prevent you from getting the most out of your ménage à trois. There are various types of threesomes that you can enjoy, but we’re betting that you’re hoping for the type with two women, one of whom is likely your bisexual or bi-curious girlfriend or wife. What follows are the basic threesome rules on how to handle such a delectable, and potentially sticky, sexual situation.

Threesome Rule #1 Group Sex
Establish the rules
You’re going to have sex with two women and all three of you have your own rules and limits, so understanding and respecting one another’s comfort levels should be a top priority when you’re establishing your threesome rules.

Because your relationship with your woman will likely be affected by this new experience, you need to be absolutely clear on which acts she’s comfortable with — and what to avoid doing — in advance. She may tell you that she’s uncomfortable with the idea of you penetrating another woman or even pleasing another woman orally.

You must respect her limits. Remember that each woman may suddenly feel jealous, so try your best not to shut either woman out and always give more attention to the woman with whom you have a relationship — this is an extremely important threesome rule.

As well, you may end up feeling jealous if you’re not the center of attention. Just keep in mind that the object of the game is to share sex between three people.

Also, remember that although some people try to drink their way to bravery for a threesome, drunken sex usually ends up being bad sex. If you want to have a cocktail or two to loosen up, that’s fine, but no more. You want to be at peak performance.

Threesome Rule #2
Be as giving as you can
Although you may be hoping that the two women will give you 100% of their attention, the truth is that they’re there to please each other just as much as they’re there to please you. You may end up feeling ignored and should do your best to get over it.

The best way to approach this situation, and an important threesome rule to follow, is to forget your feelings for a moment and try to be as generous with your hands and mouth as you can.

Pleasure in one-on-one sex goes back and forth, but in a threesome it’s more of a cycle that moves from person to person. So be patient; focus on turning both women on and the attention will come back to you.

Whatever pleasure you get in a threesome is a treat, so instead of expecting anything in particular (like getting oral sex from both women at once), enjoy everything that comes your way.

Keeping your hands moving and knowing when to penetrate are important threesome rules
Threesome Rule #3
Keep yourself busy
When you find that both women are busy pleasuring each other and you have nothing to do, keep yourself busy. Take matters into your own hands and find something to do.

Caress the breasts, thighs or vagina(s) of one or both women, kiss their backs or necks, or give oral sex to one if she’s in a position that allows you to (believe us, this will redirect attention toward you in a hurry).

If you decide instead just to pleasure yourself for a little while, don’t feel bad; the action will come back to you soon enough.

Threesome Rule #4
Be careful with penetration
Penetration is what novelist Tom Robbins calls “that old show-stopper.” It automatically forms a serious bond between you and one woman, leaving the other out. For this reason, penetrate only when you’re sure both women are comfortable with it.

Your natural inclination will be to pay close attention to the woman you’re having sex with, but you mustn’t focus on her entirely. This is about the three of you, so keep that ideal close at hand. Kiss and touch the other woman, look her in the eye, and talk to her if the mood is appropriate.

Be aware that you may feel overwhelmed with pleasure if you’re thrusting into one woman and kissing and caressing another, meaning that you might climax more quickly than expected. Take it slowly and pace yourself.

And don’t get so excited that you lose track of the women: All three of you should be sexually satisfied and, even if you achieve climax first, you must do everything you can to bring your two partners to orgasm.

Threesome Rule #5
Be safe
Condoms are a necessity, obviously. Semen, vaginal fluid and menstrual blood transmit STDs, so use one specific hand to pleasure one specific woman and use the other hand on the other woman — and keep it that way. You must never alternate.

Likewise, if you’re having intercourse with both women, you must also use a separate condom with each partner. As well, dental dams are a good precaution for oral sex. Lubricate the side that you place against a woman’s skin for better sensation.
It’s not a relationship
Afterward, lie around with both women in post-coital bliss. However, remember it’s not a relationship. This means that the third person likely shouldn’t sleep over. It may seem like a great idea in the moment, but prolonging a threesome is a recipe for total disaster.

Be reassuring to your girlfriend or wife. You’ve had fun, but it’s only pleasure and experimentation. Tell her that she turns you on, that seeing her being pleasured by another woman aroused you, and that while you enjoyed yourself, there’s no one for you but her. She’s your primary concern, so if you let her know it, you may well have more threesome adventures in the future

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We all have preferences. I prefer swinger that are clean-cut men that my Mom would approve of. Others like thin, tall, tattoos etc. There are all types and sizes and shapes in the lifestyle and the successful ones are the swinger girls who have confidence in themselves no matter what.

I’ve lost a lot of weight and my body shows the after effects. Only plastic surgery could fix what main stream society consider body flaws and I still consider going through with it. I still struggle with my lumps, bumps and folds every so often. I am human, but I am here to tell you that you are desirable if you CHOOSE to be so! Swingers are generally 40+ and we all have 40+ bodies. Some are cut and perfect by societies standards but they seem to be the ones that are avoided. I recently had a man with a traditionally perfect body want to be with me and I debated with him for hours about why? Silly me, he liked my personality AND my curves and as a swinger man he loves women for who they are. Damn could he SWING! I would have missed out on a lot.

Men tend to look at the parts they like. They are not judging your baby tummy, or your breasts you loving gave to your children to feed. They want to please you if they are worthy of you. Stop judging yourself and when you do stop and think.

Mr Mars (an author here and great play partner) was talking to me the other day and I was saying how was I getting so lucky with men that were so pretty and hot? He reminded me I was the common denominator. Others look better in a bikini but I certainly look better in bed with my wonderful swing friends and with my wonderful swing partner.

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